We live in the land of unity in diversity', but are we really united in this diversity? Are we willing to closely accept a diverse person on the lines of the divisions of the society? Give it a deep thought !
Even when the country is several decades past the freedom struggle, we still remain divided( perhaps,together in mind, when the Indian cricket team is playing against Pakistan !!! Period!!) Anyway jokes apart, this is the story of ' Two States', our story !
So,like a typical love story, my husband,Ravi and I met i n college. What started out as good friendship, turned deeper and we were convinced that we were meant to be together. Now the difficult part- we introduced about each other at our respective homes and families.
I belong to a Christian Orthodox family from Trivandrum, Kerala with no history of as anyone marrying outside the religion. My parents also were together in college, but both from Christian background,so there weren't major hiccups for them to be married. So my relationship was a piece of disastrous news to them,quite naturally!
Ravi, my husband on the other hand, hails from an all Kayastha family from Bokaro, Jharkhand. However, they were on a fairly modern mind,as they had come across similar relationships in distant family ties. So, not stiff- not soft reaction from their end.
So summing up, the news erupted like a volcano and led to rebukes and sessions of "what will people say, there is a religion barrier, we don't know their culture, how will we conduct the marriage, what customs your kids will follow" and many more!
Now time played a vital role in our favour, as, when our parents saw us going stronger through four years of graduation and while in job( though,we were in different states initially), they might have realized, that there is a good shot here, that these two maybe meant to be together after all.
Fast forward to the wedding ,with basic Indian traditions,reception and a registry, and in few months, we were ready to give them the 'happy news' !! We were pregnant! The amount of happiness and joy and blessings from both ends was overwhelming ! It is true, that the grandchild makes the grandparents as happy as they can be!!! Our families truly accepted each other's diversities!
In November 2012,we were blessed with a beautiful baby boy and we named him - Abeer! He is the perfect blend of two religions, languages, customs and traditions!
We, as parents, have taken him the responsibility of teaching him the best of what we've inherited from our parents and we feel blessed and proud ! Our very own - 'unity in diversity'!!
Even when the country is several decades past the freedom struggle, we still remain divided( perhaps,together in mind, when the Indian cricket team is playing against Pakistan !!! Period!!) Anyway jokes apart, this is the story of ' Two States', our story !
So,like a typical love story, my husband,Ravi and I met i n college. What started out as good friendship, turned deeper and we were convinced that we were meant to be together. Now the difficult part- we introduced about each other at our respective homes and families.
I belong to a Christian Orthodox family from Trivandrum, Kerala with no history of as anyone marrying outside the religion. My parents also were together in college, but both from Christian background,so there weren't major hiccups for them to be married. So my relationship was a piece of disastrous news to them,quite naturally!
Ravi, my husband on the other hand, hails from an all Kayastha family from Bokaro, Jharkhand. However, they were on a fairly modern mind,as they had come across similar relationships in distant family ties. So, not stiff- not soft reaction from their end.
So summing up, the news erupted like a volcano and led to rebukes and sessions of "what will people say, there is a religion barrier, we don't know their culture, how will we conduct the marriage, what customs your kids will follow" and many more!
Now time played a vital role in our favour, as, when our parents saw us going stronger through four years of graduation and while in job( though,we were in different states initially), they might have realized, that there is a good shot here, that these two maybe meant to be together after all.
Fast forward to the wedding ,with basic Indian traditions,reception and a registry, and in few months, we were ready to give them the 'happy news' !! We were pregnant! The amount of happiness and joy and blessings from both ends was overwhelming ! It is true, that the grandchild makes the grandparents as happy as they can be!!! Our families truly accepted each other's diversities!
In November 2012,we were blessed with a beautiful baby boy and we named him - Abeer! He is the perfect blend of two religions, languages, customs and traditions!
We, as parents, have taken him the responsibility of teaching him the best of what we've inherited from our parents and we feel blessed and proud ! Our very own - 'unity in diversity'!!
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